The age old question of what women want in a man. A famous 18th century naturalist once said that of all the things he has learned and researched throughout his entire life, the one thing he never figured out is what women want. We have come a long way since then. Massive progress has been made in the fields of evolutionary psychology and women psychology to the point where we can safely say we have a pretty good idea of what women want in a man.

Ever since you were a little boy, you were probably curious about members of the opposite sex. At first it might just be innocent things like “Why do they like to color, talk a lot, and hold hands?” Meanwhile you go about destroying things and play-fight with other boys. Then just short of reaching puberty, you probably started feeling unusual things. You begin to feel a sort of innate attraction towards girls who catch your attention. Girls went from being a weak, annoying, and boring version of ourselves to being mysterious, radiant, and… “pretty.”

Once puberty hits all hell breaks loose. Girls start developing in ways that further intensify your attraction towards them. And like most guys, you probably started doing things to try and get their attention. You went up to the one you thought was the cutest and told your very best fart joke fully expecting girly giggles. What you probably received was a blank stare and verbal threats to leave her alone. It was then that you realized… not only do girls look different from you, but they also acted, communicated, and responded in different ways. And you have absolutely NO IDEA what they want!

Most guys grow up still stuck trying to figure out exactly what women want in a man.

Like I mentioned earlier, women are DIFFERENT from us. This is the most important concept you need to grasp. A lot of guys out there for one reason or another refuse to believe or accept this fact and that prevents them from having the kind of success they want with women. Some guys out there still think that women like doing the same things they do or that they have the same thoughts and think the same way.

I’ll give you an example.

I used to know a guy who would go up to a woman he found attractive and have a conversation with her… about CARS! He would go on and on about how to fix cars and how the engine works and all that good stuff.

Of course the woman was being polite and listened intently but you can tell she has zero interest in what he is talking about. Needless to say, his chances with her sunk faster than a rock tied to an anvil. And if he did make some progress, he inevitably ended up being slotted in the “friends zone.”

He thought that since he and most people(guys) liked cars that she would too.

Again, women are different.

The sooner you can embrace the fact that women are different, the sooner you can see things for what they REALLY are.

Women are emotional creatures, they are drawn to things that stir up their emotions. Things like drama, gossip, feelings, and connections.

Vastly different from what we as guys enjoy.

You want a women to fall for you fast? Cater to how she is wired. Talk about things that cause intrigue. Ask her how she feels about a certain topic. Tell stories that incorporate romance, drama and EMOTIONS.

A few years ago I used to work at a place that employed this amazingly gorgeous receptionist. She had a ton of guys hanging around her all the time trying to get her attention even though she had a boyfriend. I only see her here and there in the hallways and that was my only chance to talk to her. I focused on conversations that would be interesting for her and rarely talk about myself.

Even though I knew her so little, she would come by my desk to say hi and drop off food on occasion. Some of the guys there hated me. I figured she was interested but since she was taken, I didn’t make a move.

When I left six months later, she confided in me that out of all the guys in the office (who have been there for years), I was the one she felt the closest with. It blew my mind.

It wasn’t until I started thinking about it that I realized I had created an amazing CONNECTION with her through those minute-long hallway interactions!

All because I understood what she responded to as a woman.

But there’s more to it than just focusing on what she finds interesting.

What Else Do Women Want In A Man?

Contrary to what society would have you believe, women are not actually attracted to the typical nice guy. If you’re a supplicating nice guy, there’s a good chance most of the attractive women in your life view you as only a friend. There is a reason for that.

Women have this hard-wired need to find a mate who can be a protector and provider.

You won’t ignite her femininity by being NICE towards her. At least not by your definition. What women consider nice and what men consider nice are very different.

Guys think they are being nice when they do whatever a woman wants, buys her gifts, become her emotional sponge, and hang out with her 24/7. Women HATE this kind of behavior.

When women say they want a nice guy, they mean this: A strong, confident, and dominant MAN who makes decisions, thinks for himself, leads in his life, fearlessly goes after what he wants (especially her)… and is NICE towards others.

Yea women make it complicated as you can probably tell. But not by their own doing.

What they are really referring to is a “real man.”

Imagine a beautiful and sexually attractive women. Notice how you can’t help but gaze at her. Notice how she carries herself in such a sensual and sexy manner. How her hair frames her gorgeous face perfectly. And how she exudes a vibrant, and enticingly feminine aura.

Entranced aren’t you?

That’s what a woman feels when she’s in the presence of a real man (or her “nice guy”). You need to become that man.

Most men live their whole lives without ever learning what is attractive to women. To make things more complicated, most attractive WOMEN don’t even know what they find attractive. If you ask a beautiful woman what she finds attractive in a man you’ll hear the usual “oh he has to be nice and be himself”.

The problem is, if you act exactly how she describes you will most definitely end up being slotted in the “friends zone” and hear things like “oh I like you, but only as a friend.”

So what is attractive to women?

How can you make her like you “that way”?

You must understand that unlike men, looks are not very important to women when it comes to choosing a mate. I’m sure you’ve seen many average looking guys with a hottie.

Of course having a lot of money and looking good helps but women are much more interested in certain qualities and specific characteristics in men.

Characteristics that any man can cultivate and embody.

When men look for a mate, on a deep level, they mostly base their decision on how a woman looks. A woman who has a curvy body, clear skin, and delicate features signal to a man on an unconscious level that she is fertile, disease free, and nurturing therefore being a good candidate to bear his children and carry on the species.

Now women on the other hand, are looking for signs that say you are a strong, confident, and masculine man who has his own life and doesn’t need approval from her. A man who has high social value and is not afraid to exert dominance over his territory.

She is hardwired from birth to respond powerfully when a man displays these traits. They tell her you are a “protector and provider”. It tells her you will fend off attackers and provide resources for her if she becomes your mate. She will have many people care for her if she’s with a man who has high social value within his group. It’s not a coincidence why the number one thing women want in their lives is security.

Now I know in this day and age there’s not that many incidents where we have to fend off attackers, however the wiring of what is attractive to women is still there and that is what they seek out. This is the reason why women are not attracted to the typical “nice guy”. The nice guy goes out of his way to please her by doing whatever she wants in hopes that he’ll get her approval. This kind of behavior appears weak in the woman’s eyes.

Now that you know what is attractive to women, stop trying to please women. Start building your confidence level by doing things that are outside your comfort zone. Begin to make friends with new people and grow your social circle. Start making your “territory” your own. And above all else get over the fear of women, how can you ever “protect” her if you are afraid of her?

If you were to ask an attractive woman what she wants in a man. You’ll usually find that confidence is near the top if not at the top of her list. Women find confidence very sexy!

How can you build confidence with women and what exactly is confidence?

It is not being fearless as no one can truly be fearless. There will always be higher quality things in life that we fear.

It is not arrogance. Which when you think about it is really rooted in insecurity.

And it is not trying to come across as someone who is confident. Faking it.

What I think confidence really boils down to is essentially seeing yourself as a man of worth who is capable of doing things that he desires.

Write that down and reflect on it often.

Again, seeing yourself as a man of worth who is capable of doing the things he desires.

Let me first address the concept of worthiness.

Many of the guys out there say they want a hot, sexy girlfriend yet when faced with the possibility of actually getting one, most guys will not feel worthy enough to have one.

An attractive woman can sense instantly when a man feels like he doesn’t measure up. She’ll feel his weakness which in turn will make it almost impossible for her to feel any sort of attraction for him.

To cultivate a high sense of self worth, start off by accepting and respecting everything about yourself. Accept and respect your body. Make sure it gets first class treatment internally and externally. Start eating healthier and staying active. The result being you’ll feel much better about yourself and it will do wonders for your self image and build confidence with women.

Make sure your appearance is the best it can be. You can’t change the features you’re born with but you have total control over how you take care of them. No hairs sticking out where they shouldn’t. Brush, floss, and scrape often. Shower everyday. Shave everyday if you’re not going for a particular look. Go out and buy stylish clothes that fit your sense of style.

And the things you don’t like but can’t change?

Let them go. Mentally accept them as a part of you, then let the issue go. If anyone has a problem with it, make it their issue and not yours.

If you will apply what I’ve said above, you’ll find your sense of self worth will go through the roof.

Now let’s talk about the next ingredient — capability.

Women want a man who feels he is capable of going after what he wants. Especially when it comes to his capability of getting her.

Now no one is born being capable. The difference between men that feel they are capable and those that don’t is that the guys who are capable have done what they wanted enough times to KNOW they are capable.

If you have something that you desire in your life but don’t feel like you’re capable of achieving it. The one thing that’s stopping you is usually fear.

Fear of failure and fear of humiliation.

If you ask people what they fear doing the most, the majority of them will tell you the answer is public speaking.

They fear it worse than death sometimes. Yet it’s a relatively simple task, just go up in front of a group and talk right? Again it boils down to fear of failure and humiliation.

So what can you do to overcome this fear and build your confidence?

Quite simply the solution is to go ahead do what the capable guys do. And that is to boldly do the thing that you fear enough times so that you’ll feel you’re capable of doing it.

That’s it!

Now go out there and take action. Build confidence with women.

Sociologists estimate that roughly about 90% of our communication is non verbal communication. It is communication that happens mostly on an unconscious level. A level that you are not aware of and that happens automatically.

It has been shown that women are 10 times better at reading body language than men. Because you communicate so much with your body language, it is crucial that know the right type of signals to send out that will give you the results you want with women.

So what exactly is body language?

It is the language of the human body. It is the way you hold yourself, carry yourself, what gestures you use, how you speak, how you walk, how you sit, basically how you move within your world.

Now that we know what it is, let’s find out how we can use our body language to attract women.

First, take in the fact that women are hardwired to respond powerfully to men who are in control, confident, dominant, and capable. When you first communicate with a woman, especially with an attractive woman that you are interested in, every single one of these traits will come up and become extremely easy for her to spot.

If you are fidgeting, if your eyes are darting around, or if your posture is slumped she’ll be able to tell in a split second how you measure up.  And if you don’t measure up, she will automatically slot you in the “friends zone” and not by choice!

So what kind of body language does a strong, confident, and dominant man have?

It is the kind that reveals to everyone around him that he is comfortable within his surroundings almost as if he himself owns the place.

He is relaxed, his movements are slow, controlled, and calculated. He walks in a masculine, graceful manner, adding a slight swagger. His posture is one of a champion, chest up, shoulders back. Not quick to respond to stimulus. He maintains eye contact, seeing everyone he comes into contact with as his equal.

He takes up space, his body language is “open”, arms to the side, legs apart. He leans back since he knows others will lean towards him. Not too eager to please.

Most importantly he is comfortable entering a woman’s space. Not in a weird, needy way but one of strength and composure which ultimately makes the woman comfortable in his presence.

This is the kind of non verbal communication that women respond to, this is how you use your body language to attract women.

So how can you take advantage of this?

Studies have shown that the way the body moves influences the mind. When you move your body in a masculine, confident manner, it begins to affect how you feel. You’ll instantly feel more powerful and confident. The more you do it, the more affirmation your mind receives.

So practice using body language to attract women by moving slower, walking slower, talking slower, responding only after a calculated response has been formulated. With enough practice you will start to embody these masculine traits and women can’t help but be drawn to you.

Most men miss so many opportunities with women who are attracted to them simply because they think that the woman they’re interacting with isn’t interested in them. Learn what some of the signs of attraction from women are so you will never miss an opportunity with a great woman again.

Contrary to popular belief, when a woman is attracted to you, she does NOT toss her hair, pout her lips, and stick out her chest. Unlike guys, most signs of attraction from women are very subtle. They’re not going to outright tell you that they like you. You’ll have to look for little clues and hints in their conversation.

Clue #1: Asking Questions

After you’ve approached a girl and started a conversation with her for a while, if she likes you, she’ll start asking questions about you. If you haven’t already told her, the first thing she wants to know is your name. And if she’s really into you, she’ll ask if you’re single or not. If she wants to know more about you then she is interested. On the contrary if she isn’t feeling it, she’ll only be giving you one word answers.

Clue #2: Physical Contact

Another one of the signs of attraction from women is physical contact. Whenever a woman touches you in some way, it’s GAME ON. Doesn’t matter if she’s hitting you in the arm or fixing your hair for you. Women love to be touched (by the right man of course) and so they love touching the men they like. Now obviously if she’s angry and the palm of her hand forcefully comes into contact with the side of your face, then that’s not a good sign. But otherwise, any sort of physical contact from a woman generally means she digs you.

Clue #3: She Continues To Engage

This is the most subtle of all but also the most reliable way to tell when a woman is interested. She’ll stay engaged and be present with you in the conversation. She may not be dropping any hints of liking you but if she’s still talking to you in a positive, upbeat manner then chances are, she likes you on one level or another. This is your queue to take it to the next level and either get her phone number.

I want to talk about a topic that really resonate with guys who haven’t had the kind of success they want with girls.

It’s about how to impress a girl.

There is a secret to impressing any girl you meet regardless of your looks or income. It’s a secret that probably only about one in a hundred guys will ever know. The reason most guys aren’t aware of it — is simply due to the fact that it’s too obvious.

Before I reveal what the secret is, I want to talk about what guys usually do to impress a girl.

When a guy is out with a girl that he’s attracted to, he’ll usually do or say things that become very obvious he’s trying to impress the girl.

You probably did the same thing at one point or another. I know I have.

When a guy feels like he has to impress a girl, he’ll generally try to be on his best behavior. He will only say things that he thinks the girl wants to hear or he tries to talk about things that will make him sound cool. He thinks that’s what he needs to do and how to attract a girl.

He often acts nervous and unnatural. He won’t try to do anything that could have the possibility of upsetting her. No teasing or playful banter. Nothing that will even remotely make the girl feel any sort of attraction for him.

Basically, he’s trying really hard not to “blow it.” And if you’re like most guys you probably thought that was the right thing to do when trying to figure out how to make a girl like you.

Girls HATE that and they’ll interpret your actions as you trying too hard.

So how to REALLY impress girls? Like I said it’s too easy to figure out and too obvious so most guys never see it.

Here it is.

The secret of how to impress girls…

STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS HER!

You need to stop trying to find ways to impress a girl. That will only hold you back. Stop trying to think of lines to impress a girl. Stop showing off to impress them. Stop talking a big game. Stop flashing your money. Stop trying to impress girls PERIOD.

Here’s what to do instead.

Again, STOP trying to impress her. Then… HAVE FUN WITH HER.

What you need to do is learn how to talk to a girl. And the most important conversation skill is learning how to make a girl laugh by teasing her.

I’m not talking about hurtful teasing. The kind of teasing I’m referring to is playful and flirtatious.

Here’s what I mean.

Let’s say she’s wearing high heels. Look her straight in the eyes and with a sly smile say something like “Wow those are some high heels you have on, what are you 3 feet tall without them?”

She’ll look at you in awe and then playfully respond with “No way, I’m not that short!”

At which point you respond with “Yeah I’m sorry you’re right, I meant 3 and a half feet.”

She’ll have a good laugh about it. Now what you’ve just done is spark some interest and attraction inside of her. That’s the first step to how to make a girl like you!

Since most of the guys out there will not have the balls to say these things, you’ll instantly come across as different and interesting. You didn’t try to win her over. You weren’t intimidated by how “goddess-like” she’s made herself to be. And you just communicated that you’re a FUN guy to hang around. This is critical when learning how to find a girlfriend and will be the difference between massive success and massive failure.

To get a girl to love you, you really have to get in their heads and find out how they tick.

Study the enemy per se.

Women fall in love rather easily when they find the right man. What you need to do is become that man. Mr. Right as most women would call him.

So who is Mr. Right and how can you become him?

Quite simply he is the kind of man that most women consider to be “a man”.

He is the protector and the provider. He’s the type of man that is in control of his emotions and his destiny. He’s decisive… hesitating not based on fear but reflection. He’s the pillar of strength. The kind of man that grows calmer as everyone else is panicking. Because of this, he is amazingly successful with women.

The age old advice of “be a man” is still very powerful and effective when it comes to getting girls to love you.

An attractive woman will instinctively know within a few seconds whether a man has his stuff together. And if she sees you as not being “man enough” for her, she’ll instantly slot you into the friends zone and there’s nothing you can do about it.

On the other hand, if she DOES get the FEELING that you’re a real man, and possess the aforementioned traits, she will slot you in the potential lover category and there’s nothing that SHE can do about it.

So how do you become a real man?

Embrace change and throw away your boyish tendencies. Start embracing your mature, masculine inner core.

When you change a part of you has to die. Let the boy die so the man can live.

Begin by putting yourself first instead of women. Use your masculine energy to go forth and make something happen in your life. Focus all your efforts on improving every aspect of your life. During the trials and tribulations that you face on your journey, you’ll begin to develop and embody the traits of a real man. This journey will be your initiation into manhood.

The bottom line is, create a great life for yourself. A life that you absolutely love… and THEN think about finding a woman to share it with.

You will notice that if you can get this part of your life handled that your problems with women will take care of themselves.

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So how do you date an attractive woman without her losing interest?

In life, the novelty of having something new wears off over time. Take women for example. Even if the woman you’re with is super amazingly hot there will come a time when her sexual attractiveness no longer entices you, even if she’s kept herself in excellent shape. You’ve become too familiar with it. Come to expect that this is what is going to happen when you enter a long term relationship and there’s not much you can do about it.

In fact, studies have shown that your brain releases different chemicals depending on how long you remain in a relationship with a woman. When you first get together with someone new, your brain releases euphoric chemicals causing you to have the experience of “being in love”.

Yeah dude, you’re sensitive, thought I’d let you know.

These love chemicals will then start to slowly dwindle and be replaced with stability chemicals. This process happens 6 to 12 months down the road.

It is during this time that many people start to lose interest.

So how to date a woman and keep her attracted? What to do when that initial euphoric feeling is gone for her?

To start with, don’t make the mistake of thinking that since you are in a relationship with a woman that you can stop doing what attracted her in the first place. You need to maintain your side of the polar opposite.

What I’m saying is, just because she’s now your “girl” doesn’t mean you stop being “the man”. Keep leading and making the decisions. Continue to exude confidence and masculinity.

Don’t become needy and cling on to her. That will drive a woman away faster than you can say “I like to play with myself”.

Now what to do towards her…

Don’t spend too much time with your woman. Give her time to miss you and crave your presence. Most guys will try and spend every waking moment with their girlfriend. This is needy and insecure behavior. Show some strength and self-control… don’t act like every other guy out there.

Do not be boring and most importantly, do not be predictable. Predictability will be the death of attraction for a woman.

Remember those stability chemicals I talked about? Unpredictability is your most powerful weapon against them.

Use that huge, complex mind of yours to come up with all sorts of fun and interesting things you can do with her.

By continuing to be a man and staying unpredictable, you can keep a woman attracted for as long as you like.

So let’s talk about where to meet women.

If you haven’t already noticed, bars and clubs aren’t exactly the best places to meet women. Sure there are plenty of physically attractive women that go bars and clubs. But the reasons why they go are totally different from the reasons why men go.

Generally speaking, men go to bars and clubs to try and “pick up” women. Women go to bars and clubs to have fun and get attention. They generally are not interested in finding a man at these locations.

In fact, women actually think that guys who go to bars and clubs to try to pick them up are “slimy” and are just looking to get booty. And because women instinctively know this, they will have their guard up all night long.

Bars and clubs are also the only places most guys know where to meet women and so you’ll have a lot of competition. To make matters worse, bars and clubs are not the best places to get into a conversation and spark some attraction with a woman.

Yes you can have success getting women in bars or clubs but only if you have major “game”.

Alright, so what are some places to meet women that is ten times easier?

One of the best places to meet women is at shopping malls. Reason being they’re out shopping and are not expecting to be approached.

What you can do to easily approach these women is ask for their opinion on something. One thing I like to do use a line I stole from women all over: Ask her if the pair of jeans you have in your hands will make your ass look fat. She’ll laugh and you’ve just broken the ice. You can then tease her if she doesn’t like what you showed her by telling her she has bad tastes. If you’ve kept it fun and light-hearted it should be really easy at this point to get her phone number.

One other great place to meet women is out grocery shopping. Again ask her opinion on how to pick the best fruit and what to look for. You can also ask her what kind of weird concoction she’s cooking up tonight with what she has in her cart. Of course she’ll laugh and you’re in!

Places like these are low pressure environments with practically zero competition. These are also the places where you can really come across as being the “magical” guy that she happened to bump into. She’ll be dying to talk about a “moment” she had with a charming guy at the store earlier that day with her friends. You’ll become her romantic comedy…

And we all know how much women love those movies.

Or the best place of all… Meeting women online!

It’s now more socially acceptable than ever for single men and women to meet online and date. The best thing about online dating is that you don’t have to worry about whether or not the person who you’re about to talk to is going to be receptive to your approach or not. If they’re on a online dating website you know they’re single and available.

It’s a low pressure environment. You have all the time in the world to construct the perfect initial letter to the cute woman you have your eye on. You’re not frying your brain trying to think of something to say when she walks by like you would if you were to approached her in person.

The best part is if it doesn’t work out with the girl you first communicate with, you can always just simply move on to the next profile. Very easy!

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So you got her phone number and now you’re frantically thinking about where you’re suppose to go and how you’re going to act so you don’t blow it.

Relax

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

When you call her to set up a date, make sure you communicate that you have other things in your life that you’re busy doing. Tell her you’re not available on such and such day but that you’re free on a particular day and you’d like to meet up with her.

Keep in mind that the only reason why you called her is to set up the date. Do not stay on the phone too long and start talking about other things in your life or hers. You can talk about other things when you’re actually on the date with her. Set up the date and hang up.

This has the effect of making it clear to her that you have other interesting things going on in your life and you’re not just waiting on her. You won’t come across as being a needy loser with no life.

Now as for where to take her…

If she’s an attractive woman, chances are she’s been on many dates with men who have showered her with gifts and taken her to expensive restaurants. These men think their actions will impress her and make her like them more.

The truth is doing this actually has the opposite effect.

If you shower her with gifts and take her out to expensive restaurants, you’ll come across as trying too hard. What’s worse is she’ll think you don’t have confidence that she’ll like you for you so you have to spend an enormous amount of money to get her to spend time with you. Not attractive at all. She’s going to think you’re trying to buy her affection and love.

Now of course there are women out there who will string along guys for meal tickets just because they can. Don’t get involved with those type of women.

The first date needs to be something that is low pressure as well as having low commitment. A coffee shop is a great first date. If things don’t work out within the first 30 minutes or so, it’s easy for you to say you have to go floss your cat.

Now how you act on a first date determines how successful it will be. Most guys screw up this part big time. Don’t make the same mistake. What you want to do is come across as the kind of man who qualifies her instead of the other way around. You also need to be FUN to hang out with.

You do this by not caring too much what she thinks of you. Lean back and don’t seem so interested. Act a little too confident. Don’t let her beauty affect you in a way where it makes you nervous and causes you to stumble over your words. Just be in the moment and have fun with her. And most importantly TEASE her.

Make fun of her as soon as you can. For example if she’s a bit late to the date, you can say to her “Yeah I thought you would try to get out of paying for your cup of coffee. This isn’t going to be a trend is it?”

She’ll laugh and you’re IN right off the bat.

Be funny and charming and make small talk for half an hour or so. Then see if you like her enough to continue the date.

If things are clicking and going well then go somewhere else afterwards.

This is a very powerful technique. By taking her to different locations, you essentially create more memories of you and her. She’ll get more feelings of you and her being “together” which in turn gives you a better chance of taking things to the next level. Since this is your first date, don’t go overboard, 2 or 3 different locations is fine.

What you do next is take her somewhere that has cool stuff happening such as a section of town that has interesting shops or an art museum. These locations are either free or cost very little money. They also have the added benefit of having interesting things that you can have a conversation about. You can tell her how dorky she would look in a funky dress you two saw in a clothing shop or how she has bad taste because she likes a particular painting at the art museum.

End the date when you two are having the most fun to keep her wanting more and head on back to your place.

Gauge her attraction level and if you feel that she may want to take things to a physical level, then invite her in. Now the secret to getting a woman to come in on a first date has to do with how you approach it. Instead of looking at it as you wanting her to come in, look at it as you allowing her to come in.

Here’s what you do.

Look at your watch and then say “I guess I have time. You can come in for a bit.”

If you’ve been an interesting and entertaining guy, there’s a good chance she’ll agree to come inside.